Chart Readings #68
It’s been an emotional Leo season and we have an Aquarius full moon coming up on the 11th that will really test our resolve to stick to routine.
Still, we are sticking to it! And on that note, here is the 68th installment of Astro Poets Chart Readings. We always love hearing from you (firstname.lastname@example.org).
Hi Dorothea and Alex,
I’ve been subscribed for a while now, have poured countless hours over reading all of your posts and have finally gathered the courage to submit my chart.
I (Sagittarius) have spent the past three years now going back and forth with a Leo. We met at work and I had an instant feeling of “I was meant to be with you” when I saw him. We dated for a year, broke up, hooked up, took a break, started talking as friends, started dating again (long distance this time) for 6 months, and have been in and out of touch for the past year.
I feel like I am starting to reach my breaking point with this on and off, hot and cold relationship with him and don’t know if I can keep dealing with his flightiness when it comes to fully committing. Despite all this, I am a hopeless romantic to a fault and still find myself holding out hope that someday eventually we will end up together and he will give me the commitment I’ve been asking for.
I am seeking any advice you might have on whether or not he will ever be able to give me the happy, romcom-esque ending I’m hoping for or if it is better to cut my losses and move onto the next?
A stuck Sagittarius
Even when a Sagittarius feels like they’re stuck they are so close to thriving. You’re one of the luckiest signs in the zodiac because you’re ruled by Jupiter and because there is an eternal truth seeker within you always.
On paper, this really should be working out between you two. Leo and Sagittarius are a very compatible match, and usually it’s the Sag that has a hard time committing. But his moon is in Pisces and this makes him a bit of a wanderer, a seeker (like you), and also someone whose moods can shift rapidly, along with his desires. Pisces is a lot of mutable energy — going with the flow, changing directions, roaming.
But I’m hopeful about this because I think his water placements (that Cancer in Mercury, his moon) will actually come through for you, it’s just going to take time on your end figuring out how to deal with his moods, or these periods of on again off again. I say that they will come through because ultimately, those placements make him someone who also deeply believes in romance and wants something serious.
You’re a Sagittarius with a Libra moon. I always say about Sags with a Libra moon — they have no time to fuck around. That Libra moon makes you sharp, blunt, and very fun also. But you like to know what you’re getting. You can move along, or you can invest. You just have to know what the deal is.
I think given his chart he will be receptive to having that conversation at some point. Maybe you already have. The thing is, that conversation will be different and evolve every time. You’re both fire signs. You’re incredibly connected to what first drew you together still. But now there is the rest of life, and jobs and time and space and distance — it will work out, but it will take some managing of expectations and a very, very serious conversation about what you both want out of life and for each other.
Leos can go there. A Leo with a Pisces moon and a Mercury in Cancer can go there. I would give him a shot. Again. And something tells me that even if you guys take another break…you’ll find each other down the road. Your charts are highly compatible.
Hi Dorothea & Alex,
I hope you are well. After reading your love match, Libra & Scorpio, I was floored, and dragged, and felt like the beautiful cardinal sign I am. I see so much beauty and have so much attraction to my Scorpio ex-boyfriend, who was one of the only matches I've had in my life that I felt truly adored me in the ways I wish to be adored. I am in fact writing this as a woman scorned, as he broke up with me back in March, and is currently in my life again after attending a music festival where he thought of me every time an artist said “tell someone you love that you love them,” and reached out.
He apologized endlessly for the way we ended on a rocky note, which involved him lashing out over a miscommunication (we had never been in any fight), breaking up with me over text, and me driving across state lines to sit on his porch waiting for him to come home from work. The day ended with both of us blocking each other.
Scorpios are magnetic. At first when he reached out I wanted to show up to see him in the prettiest dress I owned to coldly glare at him across a table and tell him that he hurt me, he hurt me, he hurt me. But he has a beautiful smile. He thanked me for seeing him and giving him time of day. He's the tallest in the room, has a tattoo of the devil, and smokes enough cigs to make a doctor faint. But he smiles so hard his eyes disappear and holds every door open for me. I showed up in one of the prettiest dresses I own and ended up smiling with him. He came back to mine and looked closely at all the new little details in my room. We played with every setting on my new keyboard. Libra & Scorpio have a lovely sound. He says my name in conversation. He spent the night and his playlist repeated on my tv and ruined my Spotify daily mixes.
I agreed to see him again, and I feel like an idiot. I keep thinking of how beautiful he is, how cute we are, everything. But I feel like when I push, he pulls back. I get scared to be affectionate in case that isn't reciprocated (then it's embarrassing because I'm the girl fawning over her ex). When I fawn over someone, I feel as if I lose my allure. I also feel as if my allure can be condensed to "flirty/pretty". I'm a natural flirt, and somehow it's less natural when concentrated on a single person because I just want to ask every "why?" question on the planet. I already did some minor heartbreaking in the days following his visit (sorry Capricorn, Cancer, Pisces). But I am always scared that Scorpio will become overwhelmed and abandon this newly propagated..... thing, just as he jumped ship suddenly in our relationship.
I don't know how to clear my head, all I want to do is think about what we would look like stitched back together.
Oh, but of course! This makes so much sense. Libras can be light and fun and flirt with the entire world and then something serious comes along and they really light up. They want to know everything, and want to be everything back to that person who is very lucky to know them, honestly.
This won’t be easy, but it’s a love story and it’s love. The good news is—it’s not easy for anyone with a Scorpio. No matter what sign. The bad news is—it’s not easy for anyone with a Scorpio. No matter what sign.
But you have history and a bond, and here is the thing about Scorpios—they really value connection over time. The accrual of memories, the nostalgic longing for someone. That’s their love language. So it makes a lot of sense that as soon as someone put him in that state of remembering, whatever artist, whatever song it was—there you were too. Right in the center of his mind. You’re also there more often than you think. But Scorpios are guarded and private and they won’t let you know that. They will, however, make a big gesture like he did about the song that reminded him of you. And I think you did exactly the right thing by seeing him and returning the affection.
Because it’s the truth. It’s how you really feel. Even if it is hard, and scary, and you may be hurt again. You walked toward what is true. What is true can often hurt us. But what are you going to do, sit around for the rest of your life thinking if you and him would have ever worked out? No. Go toward him now. As you have. And don’t stop.
Do I think Scorpios change and get a little bored with someone when they know they have them? Yes. Do I think it’s a fine and difficult line to walk? Yes I do. But Libras are incredibly charming. Especially to water signs who see their depth, but also the very shiny surface. I love how many times you mentioned your gorgeous dress. Of course! I’m sure you looked amazing. Libras can captivate this way and this is why you shouldn’t worry about giving the affection. He will always look at you and be in awe of your grace, how put together you are, all the Libra assets you have going for you.
It’s going to be a bit of a bumpy ride. Yeah. Not gonna lie. And you may have to pretend you’re not hurt many times just so you can hold onto to your dignity, which is so important for Libras. But can a Scorpio love you very deeply and make that all worth it?
You already know the answer to that.
Dear Astro Poets,
I’m a 26 year old Pisces woman who’s having some trouble with a (boooo) Pisces man.
We have a very long and dramatic story of being in and out of love and disappearing from each others’ lives in the last five years. I’ve come to realize that beneath all that drama, he’s a very dear friend and someone I want in my life. The Pisces & Pisces match you wrote helped a lot to understand our relationship and to realize we’re probably better off as friends.
We’re trying to be friends now and even though I’m not feeling this obsession for him that I used to feel, I’m scared that I still might have some feelings for him. We Pisces never fully let go. I don’t know if this friendship is sustainable because we have a strong past that runs deep, but at the same time I’m going through a hard time in my personal life right now and I feel like I need his support. What do you think?
I truly understand your dilemma because I’ve been in one of those friendship/romance/friendship/romance modes. I get what you’re dealing with here. And it is endlessly hard because, let’s face it, once you have feelings for someone they never really go away. Not entirely and not for a Pisces.
I’m glad you aren’t as obsessed with him now as before because I think that’s healthy for you. I do think if you let him in again, in a major way to help you through your personal difficulties, you may become obsessed again, even if it isn’t sexual. Because for Pisces intimacy is everything. And being close to someone’s mind and spirit, that’s the real Pisces desire. So this is dangerous territory for you.
I also think he’s probably good for you on an emotional level when dealing with other life problems, not having to do with him or your friendship. This is the really hard thing to judge. Can you allow him to be a light, and lift up these other parts of your life, without asking for more—and wanting more. Something deeper, sexual, romantic, etc.
I’m going to be very honest and say this is almost impossible for you given your placements. It’s very hard for him too because he has similar placements. But your Leo rising wants stability. And your Mercury in Pisces wants very deep communication. You are both struggling and no one wants the other to be in pain.
Try to be friends with some boundaries. If you can. Don’t let it go. But protect your peace of mind.
Hi Astro Poets,
Love you guys a lot. You’ve given me some amazing insight about myself over the past couple of years that I’ve been following you. I could go on all day about how much I love ya’ll, but I’m just going to jump into things.
Me (Aquarius) and my younger sister (Leo) cannot stop fighting. I don’t mean typical sibling arguing, I mean every single day verbally abusive screaming matches, saying horribly horribly fucked up things to each other and never actually resolving it.
We’ll go a few hours / days without talking, and then start back up again. It typically starts because she spends so much time with her Aquarius boyfriend (I’m not sure of his chart), even though I have witnessed him on multiple occasions being verbally abusive towards her, and called him out on it.
She claims she has infinite love for him and I will not go any deeper into that……but long story short it makes me sick to my stomach. All I want is to spend time with my sister, and resolve this terrible energy between us. I love and support her in every possible way, but I can’t help but feel like this cycle will never end. If she’s not fighting with me, she’s fighting with her boyfriend. I can’t imagine what’s going on inside her head. I don’t want to be part of the problem anymore.
I know it’s much deeper than astrology, but maybe some insight can help. <33
We love you! Hang in there.
First you have to know that a Leo sun/Leo moon combo makes someone incredibly loyal but also incredibly stubborn and into grudges. Any argument, perceived slight, off-handed comment — double Leos magnify it. To them it could feel like the end of the world.
So your sister is incredibly sensitive to criticism. Whether it’s true or not (the criticism). She just cannot hear it and finds it unbearable most of the time.
Now you’re a pretty rational Aquarius with a Virgo moon. You shoot from the hip and tell it like it is, but your Virgo moon also wants to keep everyone happy and taken care of. She doesn’t want to fight with you. Know that. And it kills her probably that you say these things to each other. Leos are so, so, so deeply sensitive. They have so much pride too, that they will never admit being hurt, wrong, or upset on a deeper level. Everything will always be someone else’s fault. Etc, etc.
But time changes people. And she’ll grow into the really positive aspects of her character. Leos are so warm. So giving. So capable of fully embracing people as they are. The thing I would say to try and do is accept her in this turbulent mode right now. Just accept her. Don’t argue with her even when you are right. Know that it won’t make anything better. You’ll still be right and there will still be hurt. And vice versa.
One of you needs to step away. Not step down. Just step away and don’t engage the negativity. That takes someone putting pride aside. And I think it’s going to be you because Leos and pride — it’s a complicated subject! Just know that they have a lot of it and it absolutely gets in their way. They often obscure things because of it and can’t see just how much they are loved. Or all the good that can be possible.
You’ll make it through this! Time changes everything.